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  Did you know you can negotiate your bills? I’m sure your answer is “No” because I didn’t either! Living in today’s economy it is necessary that we cut expenses we don’t need. One thing about me I’m going to do extensive research on ways to make money and save money.   Reasons you should consider negotiating your bills: •You want to save more money •Your monthly income isn’t enough to cover your cost of living •You are living check to check •You still need the service but can’t afford it What type of bills can be negotiated: •Credit card interest  •Cell phone •Home security  •Car insurance  •Utility bills I know you’re wondering “ How can I negotiate my bills ?” The answer is “ You just need to ask! ” Call the company of the bill that you are looking to negotiate and simply let them know you aren’t able to afford your bill. This will give you flexibility to get a response with more options and they will likely give you a ton of information on how you can save o...

 So before I start writing this blog for the second time, Can you believe my phone decided to delete all of the bomb information I had for you guys. So yea, You can see how my Sunday is going!  Are you going through a major life change? Going through a breakup or adjusting to who you are becoming or even still dealing with childhood trauma ? I believe these are all great reasons to consider going to therapy..We all have different ways that we choose to deal with life, but going to therapy has really helped me in healing childhood wounds and forming healthier relationships. A lot of people don't want to admit that they are toxic or need professional help because they are in denial. I'm here to tell you there is nothing to be ashamed of. I spend a great deal of my early 20's reliving the past and being unhealthy in my relationship and with myself. It wasn't because I was a bad person, it was because I didn't understand what healthy relationships or being healthy to ...

Omg! Did I mention being a adult in my late 20’s is challenging? Between budgeting , my bank account and making decisions I don’t want to make, I’m over all of it!!!  One minute I feel like superwoman and the next minute I feel like I’m losing my mind. I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way. I’m at a point where I don’t want to do it but it’s necessary! If I want all the things I say I want. Sacrifices need to be made, who wants to make Sacrifices? The painful ones to be exact. Umm, Nobody! Exactly! Okay, the rant is over! Although I could go on and on about how life can suck, I’d rather talk about the positive perspective attached to all decisions we are currently making for our future.  You are probably reading this after crying your eyes out in the shower , or maybe you paid your last bill and there’s no money left in your account. Whatever your situation is I’m sure you are making those painful sacrifices we can all relate to.  I just want to say Congratula...

  We all remember that one question in high school “ Where do you see yourself in the next 5 years " . Now I'm here 10 years later, and almost everything I've ever fantasized about has happened. I often questioned whether I was the only one who was going through life's trials and still dreaming of all the things I wanted. While doing a bunch of research I realized that I'm not! There are so many people in their 30s 40’s and 50’s still working jobs they hate while fantasizing about the future that they wish to have someday .  Oh, I also know many people including myself who have dreams but are at places in life where we don't want to be. The truth is, all of this is preparing us for our future. That baby you want to have will come when it's meant to come. That lifestyle you want to have is on its way. That trip you are dreaming of taking will happen one day. Please don't stop fantasizing, it makes life fun and you don't feel like all you are doing ...

  I think it’s safe to say we have people who genuinely love us and a few who don’t care for us. It’s either your presence will inspire others or completely annoy their souls there’s no in between.   I’m not here for the small talk or to focus on who doesn’t care for us, I’m here to acknowledge the ones who do. Let’s face it the ones who don’t like us are weird because we are amazing  🫶🏾   Sometimes I wonder when people meet me and don’t like me do they immediately think that I’m loud, maybe I’m a little to extra whatever they are feeling about me is cool because I’m going to be who I am regardless and you should too! Why should I change when I have people who genuinely love me for who I am. Reasons why people love you; • You are great to be around  •You make them laugh •You are encouraging  •You are uplifting  •You are who you are & they love it Yes, I know I just named all the great qualities about you and this is what you should focus on! I be...

  I know we’ve all heard someone say “ Life is not a game ”. I am here with a unpopular opinion. “ Please don’t take life to serious ”. If you are stressing over financial problems, relationship breakup, difficulties at work or school, injury or illness. You are making things harder for yourself and the healing process. Maybe you are going through a hard time financially, you are going through a breakup, maybe a health scare or family drama.   We all know we go through things so why must we make things more difficult than what they are? By having your everyday life issues at the top of your mind how will it help you? I’m not saying to ignore life’s issues but at-least make the best out of them because it’s only temporary. We are all human and we have our moments of uncertainty, moments of weakness and moments we need to heal etc but why not try to still live a fulfilling life despite what’s going on?  I believe going through difficult moments and finding ways to keep you ...

  Happy Sunday! I hope you’re making sometime for self-care. If you are anything like me Sundays are for relaxing and resetting for the upcoming week.   Why self care is important: Self care is important because it can reduce stress , anxiety and also boost your self-esteem.  Maybe you’re on a budget, or just don’t have the energy to go out today. I have created 5 FREE Relaxing Self Care Ideas that you can do at home to make your Sundays more enjoyable and relaxing.. 5 FREE Relaxing Self Care Ideas : Take a LOVE Bubble Bath; Not just a regular bubble bath but a bath with rose pedals and candles.. Put on your favorite music and enjoy your bath. (What you’ll need: Rose Pedals, Candles) Drink your Favorite Beverage Drinking your favorite drink on a Sunday can be just as relaxing as going out and grabbing a drink. Consider pouring it in your favorite cup & listening to a calming instrumental or motivational speech.  (For me I love Iced Coffee in My Favorite Maso...

Have you ever thought about something negative? Then your entire day became consumed with negativity.   I know! I’ve been there too. Come-on we are human and we all have our days of not remaining positive. If it is something that happens often you may need to do extensive work to get better. Ibelieve negativity is often a product of  depression or insecurity. Have you ever been around someone who has had absolutely nothing positive to say about anyone? That can come from insecurity. Maybe every time you tell that one person something positive they look for the worse that can happen? That can be a sign of Depression. Although I’m not here to do a lesson on negative thoughts, I think it’s important that we recognize how our thoughts can come from deep rooted problems we don’t address.  I’m here to tell you how I’ve overcame Negative Thinking & hopefully you can too. 3 Great Ways you can minimize your negative thoughts;    Acknowledging your thoughts  💭 ...

“Making peace a priority is important..” Just speaking from experience.  I’ve been in so many situations where I could’ve lost my mind. Looking back on how far I’ve come “I have mastered peace, Well in my opinion at-least!” Back in Feb 2020 I went through a crazy life event and before I left that situation I said to myself “I’m leaving for my Peace”. Although it was a tough decision, I remember really feeling in my core that I was making Peace a priority this time around even during the chaos.  While going through so many emotions, I still made it a thing to take care of my mental health first. I was such a emotional rollercoaster. Some moments I was happy, others I was uncertain but everyday I was Peaceful.  In April 2020, I just turned 25 and I was making the best my journey even though I wasn’t where I really wanted to be. That April I received a call that would change my life forever. I was told My Mom passed away. It wasn’t until that exact moment where everything st...

I don’t think anyone wakes up inspired everyday. The beautiful thing is you can get inspired by finding things that make you excited. For me, I love going by the water and sitting for hours because it brings me peace. I believe inspiration sparks creativity and that is why inspiration should be apart of your everyday life. I am inspired by large buildings because when I see them my thoughts are “Wow! these buildings all came from one idea that someone had and decided to execute.”Imagine taking 10 Years to finally get what you’ve always dreamed of. Do you think that time would matter if you were in your moment of things finally happening? No! Exactly! So it shouldn’t matter now. What should matter is your journey. So when we talk about staying inspired remember that it helps us through the journey and gives us a new prospective on where we currently are in life.  Most success stories have a struggle story attached to them, but what do we see? The results , we don’t see the journey! ...

Having a bad day? I totally understand. I have mines too!  It’s not a good feeling. Maybe you feel as if you aren’t where you need to be and it is eating you up inside. I am here to tell you you are exactly where you need to be! Here are  5 real reasons  why you should feel better: It’s your Life Journey  We all understand that sometimes life can feel overwhelming due to the many situations we may come across on a daily basis. I want you to look at it as “This is your journey and it’s yours for a reason. No journey is perfect and there is no way to predict the future but we have the opportunity to create it. If you don’t create happiness around your life you won’t be happy.  You are Alive So many people didn’t have the opportunity to wake up this morning. Here you are alive and breathing. Sometimes we take the little things for granted! There is someone out there fighting for their life, someone who cant see or even speak. Being alive is more than enough to chan...