BECOME HER

Are you becoming who you desire to be or are you stuck?   I think this is the most challenging thing to ask. It is important to get clear on what you want so that you don't fall into the trap of becoming what you don't want to be! Everything we say we want must align with the decisions we make.  REALITY CHECK. You want to lose weight -> Did you change your diet? You want to save money -> Did you create a savings plan? You want a healthy relationship -> Are you actively working on yourself? It's okay to want to become someone different, better, positive, optimistic etc. Whatever you want to become you are only one decision away from becoming! Is everything you want aligning with your actions? If you answered NO, you are doing it all wrong. I know we often talk about manifesting but manifesting will not work if we don't put actions behind the things we say we want. We are in NOVEMBER, I challenge you to say “NO” to the things that no longer align with what you wa...

Going Soul Deep... I know so many people say to stop blaming people for the way you are, and I can agree to a certain extent. I think we don't realize how growing up a certain way can play a huge part in our self-image. I do feel like it is our responsibility to get the help we need to become better but let's not act like the scars don't actually come from something deeper! All my life I would seek approval from others because I was abandoned by my parents, I wanted to be liked so bad that I became a peoples pleaser, accepting anything people would say to me all because I didn't want to lose them, which is also considered ( fear of abandonment ). As I've gotten older I realized I can openly discuss how I feel because this is my story and over the years I've become who I desire to be! A beautiful, self-aware, resilient woman who has decided to take no sh*t from a soul and continue healing the parts that are broken. All I can really say is "WOW" to the ...

People form opinions based on their own personal experiences. I wish more people stopped judging others and allowed them to learn and grow. At Least that's how I feel!  We all know that one person who always has something to say. ( You shouldn't do that, it’ll get you in debt. Leave that alone, you’ll ruin your life. Why would you do that, you should be ashamed. ) Most people tell us things because they lived through it but sometimes the approach isn't as warm and welcoming. I'm here to tell you no matter what advice you get, follow your intuition because it never lies. No matter what I've been through, good or bad it has literally made me into the woman I am today. I regret nothing because it taught me a lot! It taught me to embrace my journey, what I didn't want for my future, how incredible I was and what mistakes I was not willing to make again. I had to realize everything that was meant to destroy me only made me stronger and aware of who GOD has placed me ...

  Are you going through some s***? Me too! I hope you are holding yourself accountable but also letting the past go! Holding yourself accountable gives you an opportunity to reflect on what you did wrong so you won't make the same mistake twice. Letting it go is important for your mental health! Definition  ( Accountability):  Accountability is the acceptance of responsibility for one's own actions. Benefits of  ( Letting Go):  Letting go can improve your overall health and prevent long-term health problems. Holding on to things can cause stress and stress can put us at risk for heart disease and other health issues. Omg, y'all!  Things have been super rocky in my personal life lately. A few times I wanted to say f*** it and hide under a rock but I was reminded that no matter what life throws at me I caused on myself. The conversation stopped being "Why me?" & it became "How do I fix this?". My Experience: I got tired of blaming others for why I went...

  Did you know you can negotiate your bills? I’m sure your answer is “No” because I didn’t either! Living in today’s economy it is necessary that we cut expenses we don’t need. One thing about me I’m going to do extensive research on ways to make money and save money.   Reasons you should consider negotiating your bills: •You want to save more money •Your monthly income isn’t enough to cover your cost of living •You are living check to check •You still need the service but can’t afford it What type of bills can be negotiated: •Credit card interest  •Cell phone •Home security  •Car insurance  •Utility bills I know you’re wondering “ How can I negotiate my bills ?” The answer is “ You just need to ask! ” Call the company of the bill that you are looking to negotiate and simply let them know you aren’t able to afford your bill. This will give you flexibility to get a response with more options and they will likely give you a ton of information on how you can save o...

 So before I start writing this blog for the second time, Can you believe my phone decided to delete all of the bomb information I had for you guys. So yea, You can see how my Sunday is going!  Are you going through a major life change? Going through a breakup or adjusting to who you are becoming or even still dealing with childhood trauma ? I believe these are all great reasons to consider going to therapy..We all have different ways that we choose to deal with life, but going to therapy has really helped me in healing childhood wounds and forming healthier relationships. A lot of people don't want to admit that they are toxic or need professional help because they are in denial. I'm here to tell you there is nothing to be ashamed of. I spend a great deal of my early 20's reliving the past and being unhealthy in my relationship and with myself. It wasn't because I was a bad person, it was because I didn't understand what healthy relationships or being healthy to ...