Dealing with Judge mental People, What you need to know!

People form opinions based on their own personal experiences. I wish more people stopped judging others and allowed them to learn and grow. At Least that's how I feel!

We all know that one person who always has something to say. (You shouldn't do that, it’ll get you in debt. Leave that alone, you’ll ruin your life. Why would you do that, you should be ashamed.) Most people tell us things because they lived through it but sometimes the approach isn't as warm and welcoming. I'm here to tell you no matter what advice you get, follow your intuition because it never lies.

No matter what I've been through, good or bad it has literally made me into the woman I am today. I regret nothing because it taught me a lot! It taught me to embrace my journey, what I didn't want for my future, how incredible I was and what mistakes I was not willing to make again. I had to realize everything that was meant to destroy me only made me stronger and aware of who GOD has placed me on this earth to be.

I made it a priority to surround myself with friends who don't judge me and family who genuinely supports me. It has been very challenging to get the support from others, Honestly it wasn't always like this. Once I started not to care what others thought about me people stopped forming opinions and telling me how they felt I was living my life. No one has it all figured out so what they say shouldn't matter especially if it's coming from a place of judgment.

Here are 3 things I’d highly recommend when dealing with people who judge:

Keep them at a distance-

This probably is a no brainer, most judge mental people are negative and no matter what you tell them they’ll always tell you why you shouldn't be doing it. Keeping them at a distance will allow you to attract more positive and supportive people in your life.

Set clear boundaries-

Setting clear boundaries are so important. People will only do to you what you will allow. While setting boundaries you don’t need to be rude. You can kindly say something like “I understand how you can feel that way but I can handle my own situation all I needed was a little support”. & Also take a mental note that you probably shouldn't tell this person certain things.

Don't over share-

This is a huge one. Have you ever overshared so much you start to feel bad about even sharing details in the first place? I’ve been there too! It’s okay to be private and not share your wins or problems with certain people. Some really don't want the best for you, they just want to know so it can be a conversation they have with someone else. Become selfish with what you share, please don't over do it.

I hope this Blog has helped you in some way when dealing with judge mental people! You can't change them but you can change how you deal with them!

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